What every child throughout human history has wanted

IT IS INEXPLICABLE how leftists and libertarians are incapable of comprehending why right thinking people are opposed to child surrogacy or even adoption by homosexual couples. While some may actually be that dense, it’s more likely many are simply unwilling to be honest about the insurmountable ethical problems such policies involve.

Sam Kerr, Dave Rubin, Pete Buttigieg and so many other high profile, homosexual couples are willing to proudly and very publicly make their child production activities a topic for discussion – as long as you agree with them.

However, the leftist echo chamber goes apopleptic when people disapprove for any reason. Many leftists are unable or unwilling to filter objective, ethical criticism from “bigotry”.

Another homosexual celebrity has recently discussed his frustrations about bringing a child into his homosexual relationship. When people ask natural questions about the child’s mother, former The Batchelor star Colton Underwood retorts:

“He does not have a mother.

 

He’s our son, and he doesn’t have a mother.

 

Our child has two dads, and he does not have a mother.

 

The term we use is he has an egg donor. He doesn’t have a biological mum. He doesn’t have a mum … he had an egg donor, and he had a surrogate that brought him into this world.”

Whatever Underwood wishes were true, it’s scientifically impossible to create new people without a mother. Their child’s mother is the person whose chromosomes he has half of.

But Underwood really has belled the cat and said the quiet part out loud (and proud). They have deliberately designed a future for a child without ever knowing the love of his mother.

Katy Faust commented:

“You can tell your child that he does not have or need a mother.

 

The problem is, he will want a mother.

 

Then he’ll feel shame over his disordered affections and wonder what’s wrong with him for wanting what every child throughout human history has wanted.”

Let me be very clear now for the sake of the obtuse readers determined to take offence from political debate.

I am not saying a person with feelings of same sex attraction is in any way a lesser parent. He or she may even be better as an individual than others. So do not mount an attack against that strawman, for you will simply demonstrate your inadeqate comprehension or sincerity.

The problem with homosexual parenting isn’t the homosexual parent, it’s the missing parent.

What needs to be made very clear, and is objectively supported by centuries of evidence and data from cross cultural anthropology and sociology (not just white Christians), is that the ideal context for raising a child is married, biological parents. This is objectively the best interests of a child; and the best interests of the child are (or should be) the primary concern of every adult, aspiring parents and lawmakers alike.

In the case of children thrust into a childhood with biological bonds inadvertantly broken by death, divorce or desertion, the best interests of the child are to get as close to the ideal as possible. Step parents are not personally “less than” biological parents, nor are adoptive parents. Accidentally single parents are also to be admired and supported for doing the best they can in circumstances beyond their control.

Seriously – don’t waste your breath arguing with me if you’re in one of those categories through choices you didn’t make because this isn’t about you. This reasoned criticism is about those people who deliberately design a child’s life to be deprived of the love and nurture of one or more of their biological parents.

No matter the individual qualities of a same-sex attracted parent, a homosexual couple simply can never provide the necessary love of a mother and a father. Like Underwood said, his son does not have a mother – and that’s how they intended his life to be from before the moment he was conceived.

Fools argue that two loving parents is all a child needs. By that logic, what’s wrong with a loving football team raising a child? Is it just about quantity or not? Of course not. There is abundant evidence that children raised by two loving homosexuals are likely to:

• suffer emotional or behavioral difficulties at a rate of 9.3 percent, more than twice the 4.4 percent rate for children in dual-gender families,
• experience “definite” or “severe” emotional problems at a rate of 14.9 percent versus 5.5 percent,
• be diagnosed with ADHD at a rate of 15.5 percent versus 7.1 percent,
• struggle with learning disabilities at a rate of 14.1 percent versus 8 percent,
• receive special education and mental health services at a rate of 17.8 percent versus 10.4 percent.

Deliberate deprivation of a child’s natural rights and needs to be raised by married, biological parents is child abuse.

Children are not accessories you can order from a shelf. That’s human trafficking.

Children are not emotional support pets for the hole left in your heart as a consequence of your terrible life decisions, imposing emotional trauma on them instead. That’s peak selfishness.

Dave Pellowe is a Christian political educator & commentator, director of annual Church And State conferences around Australia, and founding editor of The Good Sauce. Since 2016 Dave has undertaken the mission of arming Christians to redeem culture through videos, podcasts and articles published in multiple journals across Australia and New Zealand, and events from Perth to Auckland. [more]

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